I’m Afraid of How My Partner Will React to My Unplanned Pregnancy

Discovering an unplanned pregnancy is overwhelming and, sometimes, frightening. Knowing you have to share the news with someone whose response is unpredictable is even scarier. While sharing difficult news can be nerve-wracking, we have some ideas that may make breaking the news a little easier.

First, Have You Verified Your Pregnancy?

At First Care, we provide free and confidential lab-quality pregnancy testing. These tests are over 99% accurate 7-10 days after conception and can give you reliable results. If your test is positive, we can schedule you for a free limited ultrasound.

A pregnancy test only indicates a possible pregnancy, but an ultrasound confirms if your pregnancy is viable (growing), where the pregnancy is located, and how far along you are in your pregnancy.

Now’s the time to also review your pregnancy options. The more information you have, the better you will feel about telling your partner.

How Do I Tell My Partner?

Once your pregnancy is confirmed, you’ll have the information to feel more confident when sharing with others. Remember, you are not obligated to tell your partner. Although complete honesty is often the best course of action, if you are fearful for your safety, you do not need to inform him.

Suggestions for Telling Your Partner About Your Pregnancy

If you want to tell your partner, here are a few suggestions for breaking the news:

• Meet in a public place to have your discussion.
• Take a trusted friend or family member with you.
• Let your partner know you have verified your pregnancy.
• Let them know your three options.
• Do not let them dictate which option you choose.
• Try to remain calm as you talk

If you feel unsafe talking to your partner, reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233). You can also call the 24/7 MN Day One hotline at (866) 223-1111 or text them at (612) 399-9995.

You’re Not Alone

We are here for you. If you are anxious about informing your partner about your pregnancy, talk with us first. We offer free pregnancy services, resources, and referrals as well as compassionate support.

Set up a free and confidential appointment with a caring team member at your nearest First Care location. We can confirm your pregnancy and discuss your goals to determine your best course of action.

You do not have to face this alone. Schedule an appointment today.a