My Partner is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion But I’m Not Sure

When facing an unplanned pregnancy, it can be daunting. If you don’t have a plan, it can be even more alarming because you feel pressured to have a plan of action, or your partner is trying to convince you to have an abortion.

First of all, you are not alone! As you create a pregnancy plan, there are plenty of options and time to investigate each. Read this article for practical steps to help you navigate an unplanned pregnancy with a partner who may have a different preference than you.

Assess the Situation

After you first realize you are pregnant, give yourself some breathing room. You don’t have to solve this situation right away. 

In fact, the more time you give yourself, the more likely you are to make a confident decision that you will feel good about later on because you made it objectively and not out of fear or in a rush. 

As you take your time to process the situation, 

Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself: 

• Is my partner set on abortion and unwilling to learn more about other options?
• Is he demonstrating abusive behavior, such as verbal or physical threats?
• Does he have any support system, such as a trusted friend or family member, to help him process this?
• Do I have a preference for a specific option other than abortion?
• Am I willing to continue with the pregnancy, even without his support?

Your partner may first respond out of fear or anxiety. If this is the case, try giving him space or encouraging him to find support as he lets the news sink in.

But, keeping yourself safe should be number one. If he acts in any way that seems abusive, don’t wait; take steps to protect yourself right away.

At First Care, we offer free consultations for you (and your partner) to learn more about your pregnancy options in a judgment-free environment. 

Get Informed

You and your partner do not have to agree on how to handle the pregnancy because, legally, the choice is up to you.

It’s best to start a fact-finding mission about your pregnancy and explore the advantages and disadvantages of abortion, parenting, and adoption.

At First Care, we offer free health screenings such as pregnancy tests and ultrasounds, where you can learn about your pregnancy’s status, age, and location. 

These details can let you know how far along you are and if your pregnancy is healthy and growing. Once you have the information about your pregnancy and more about your options, you can make a confident decision.

Feel Empowered

After you’re done gathering all the info you need, we offer a safe space for you to talk about what you’ve discovered and get details on local help available for women dealing with unexpected pregnancies.

Whether you and your partner see eye to eye or not, no woman should experience this experience alone. We’re here to back you up and help you make your best choice. Contact us today to set up your options consultation!